Vulnerability and Dating

At the last dating workshop I taught, several people expressed the thought that they couldn't bear to date again. 'I just can't take any more hurt,' lamented one woman. A man complained, 'Putting myself out there only to get shot down another time is too much heartache.' Letting yourself be vulnerable is risky. Yet, it is the only path to love. If you don't open your heart and allow yourself to be vulnerable, you close yourself off to love. There are ways to make vulnerability easier in dating. Here are some tips on how. 1. UNDERSTAND THAT GUARDING YOUR HEART DOESN'T WORK. As people date, they can experience heartache and vow not to be vulnerable again. Some put up walls to try and protect their hearts. This sets them up for failure. When Mary picked Jack to marry, because he loved her more than she loved him, not only did she settle but she falsely assumed that this was a guarantee against heartbreak. Unfortunately, this assumption didn't hold up....